Most relationships begin with desire.
That electric pull towards another being. The tingling anticipation. The craving for their touch, their kiss, their scent, their body.
Desire is powerful. It fuels the first conversations, the daring confessions, the sweet urgency to meet again. It awakens our senses, brings colour to life, and ignites the beautiful chaos of falling in love.
But desire, by its very nature, is fleeting.
It is driven by lack – the hunger for something not yet possessed, or possessed but always at risk of loss. Desire burns hot and bright, and left alone, it often burns out.
If a relationship remains only in this realm of pleasure and desire, it risks becoming transactional. A place where we seek to get an experience – pleasure, validation, affection, attention – rather than become something greater within love.
The Shift from Pleasure to Presence
There comes a time in every mature relationship when an invitation arrives.
An invitation to move from pleasure to presence.
Pleasure asks, “What can I get?”
Presence asks, “How deeply can I be here?”
When we anchor our relationships in presence, everything changes. Love becomes less about extracting delight from the other and more about experiencing the sacredness of who they are in this moment.
Pleasure peaks and collapses.
Presence expands and deepens.
From Desire to Higher Forms of Love
Desire is not wrong. It is a beautiful doorway. But beyond desire lies devotion.
When you meet your beloved in presence, something profound is revealed: the possibility of a higher form of love.
A love that is not based on what they give you, or how they make you feel, but based on the silent knowing that their existence itself is worthy of reverence.
This is the love that no longer asks:
- Do you excite me?
- Do you fulfill my needs?
- Do you complete me?
But rather sits in the quiet joy of:
- How can I witness your soul more fully today?
- How can I honour your journey, as it is, without trying to change or mould it?
- How can I serve the love between us, beyond my own limited desires?
Raising Love Into the Realm of the Sacred
When love moves beyond pleasure into presence, and beyond desire into devotion, it enters the realm of the sacred.
In this realm:
🌿 Touch becomes a prayer.
🌿 Words become mantras.
🌿 Time together becomes ceremony.
🌿 Words become mantras.
🌿 Time together becomes ceremony.
You begin to see each other not just as lovers or partners, but as divine mirrors, catalysts for each other’s awakening, guardians of each other’s soul.
The Practice
Raising your relationship into these higher realms does not require withdrawing from pleasure or suppressing desire. It simply asks that you integrate them into something deeper.
When you touch each other, pause. Breathe. Feel life moving within them.
When you kiss, taste not just their lips, but the moment itself.
When you make love, feel not just friction and heat, but the dance of two infinite beings merging into One.
Love as Spiritual Practice
In the end, love is not about pleasure versus presence, or desire versus devotion.
It is about weaving them together.
Pleasure becomes deeper with presence. Desire becomes purer with devotion.
This is the path of raising your relationship from the transient to the timeless, from the mundane to the sacred, from the self-seeking to the soul-revealing.
May your love rise into its highest form.
May it become the force that brings you back to who you truly are.
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