We often hear about the importance of “relationships” – defining them, committing to them, holding on to them. But what if the very idea of relationship is what blocks true connection?
🌿 The Trap of Taking Each Other for Granted
Once we name something a relationship, a subtle shift happens:
✅ We start to take each other for granted.
✅ We think we know the other person.
✅ We stop seeing them as a living, changing mystery.
✅ We think we know the other person.
✅ We stop seeing them as a living, changing mystery.
This is what destroys love affairs.
This is what dims passion, curiosity, and wonder.
This is what dims passion, curiosity, and wonder.
👁️ The Other is a Mystery
How can you ever truly “know” another being?
The woman you knew yesterday is not the woman before you today. Overnight, her thoughts, cells, emotions, and dreams have shifted. She is new.
The man you slept beside last night is not the same man in the morning light. His mind has journeyed through dreams. His heart has felt its silent prayers. His body has awakened anew.
🔑 People are Processes, Not Things
Unlike the furniture in your room, people are not static. They are not objects to be possessed or fully defined. They are:
✨ Processes
✨ Rivers flowing through time
✨ Living mysteries unfolding breath by breath
✨ Rivers flowing through time
✨ Living mysteries unfolding breath by breath
💡 The Art of Relating
Instead of clinging to relationship as a noun, learn to relate as a verb:
🌱 See them again.
Look into their eyes as if for the first time.
Look into their eyes as if for the first time.
🌱 Listen again.
Hear their words without the filters of yesterday’s judgments.
Hear their words without the filters of yesterday’s judgments.
🌱 Touch again.
Feel their skin as a sacred landscape you have never explored.
Feel their skin as a sacred landscape you have never explored.
🙏🏽 Relating is Presence
Relating means meeting the person before you now – free from assumptions, labels, or old conclusions. It is an act of humility, wonder, and respect.
To think you know them is ungrateful.
To relate to them is love.
To relate to them is love.
💭 A Reflection for Today
Ask yourself:
🗝️ “Am I relating… or am I holding on to an image of who I think they are?”
Let every moment be an opportunity to meet the mystery again.
That is where love lives.
That is where life breathes.
That is where life breathes.
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